Let's talk about consent.

Brock Turner has served half of his six month sentence and his being released. He was convicted of sexual assault. He was guilty.
And he served three months for a "youthful indiscretion" that caused a lifetime of trauma.
Drunken sexual assault is not a "youthful indiscretion."

It's rape and it's destructive and it needs to stop.

So here are a few pieces of advice to anyone who's considering raping someone. There aren't original thoughts, but here they are in one place:

• Don't. If you need sex that badly, get help. Others would advise you to get a hooker, but there's clearly something deeper going on. You need help.
  
• You need an actual "yes." You need real consent. You need to be told that your advances (which should always start with genuine interest and not just a desire to have sex) are wanted and that your desires are reciprocated.
  
• Previous consent does not mean current consent
  
• Drunk consent is not consent.
  
• Previous rejection does not turn into consent under the influence of drugs and alcohol.
  
• Previous rejection should be respected and not challenged.
  
• Don't deal with rejection by going to a party and waiting for someone to be drunk enough to be convinced.
  
• If he or she has said "no," that's when you stop. It doesn't matter how close you are to finishing. Your pleasure doesn't matter once you've been told to stop.
  
• Your pleasure needs to stop being your first priority.
  
• Again, drunk consent is not consent. Even if it seems to be, it's not. Drunk sex is not good sex. Sex without consent is not good sex. It's rape.
  
• If you have to "have sex" with someone behind a dumpster, you're not doing it right. Unless you're both sober and think it's exciting. Even then, it's a dumpster. There's garbage juice on that ground. You're going to end up with a nasty infection and it won't have been worth it.
  
• You own your own body. Only your own. You have no rights to any one else's body unless they are offered freely.
  
• Don't wait for someone to be drunk in order to try to have sex with them. That's not how it works. And you need to stop using that excuse when you're accused.
  
• Just stop. You won't get in trouble for staying home with a bottle of lotion. (Although porn is a whole other layer of this.)
  
• Seriously. Unless you actually have a psychological disorder, you won't get any real pleasure from this. 

I know that a blog post by some rando won't do much, but if I can make one person think or make one more voice heard, I will be fine with my small influence.

Stop trying to take ownership of anyone's body or life other than your own. Stop making your urges the most important thing.